Everything you need to know about the fourth trimester - advice for new parents

Let go of performance expectations

After countless courses, parenting books, and midwifery meetings, that desire to be the 'perfect parent' is difficult to drop. But psst, want to know a secret? There's no such thing. There is no right or wrong in parenting. You need to allow parenthood to test you, accept that you will make mistakes here and there, and then eventually find your way of raising your child. Love, closeness, and endearment are all your baby wants from you as a parent. And a lot of food and sleep, of course. The rest is just a bonus.

Carry, carry, carry, and preferably skin-to-skin

Carrying your baby skin-to-skin is not only incredibly cozy but also has physical and emotional benefits. It gives you two free hands, strengthens the bond between you, and, according to research, makes your baby happier. Using a baby carrier or wrap makes your life as a parent easier while giving your baby the closeness they need. 

Don't forget about you

Becoming a parent turns your whole life upside down. And it's easy to lose yourself a little along the way. Suddenly, free time is a rarity and you aren’t able to do those things you love to do. But even though you're now a mom, dad or parent, it's important to remember that you are still you. Don't stop doing those things that make you happy. Those activities or routines that played a positive role in defining who you were… hold onto them! As much as is realistic, make sure you dedicate time for yourself. It will only make those moments with your family even more special.

Try tips and tricks for baby’s sleep, and don't forget your own

You can expect your newborn to sleep a lot in the first few weeks, up to 17 hours a day. Sounds amazing right? But don't forget that your newborn will also wake up between every two to four hours. Therefore it’s important to find tricks to avoid disturbing your baby's beauty sleep.

The Najell Babynest SleepCarrier is a smarter babynest with handles. It provides a safe and comfortable environment for your baby to sleep in, wherever you end up. Meaning you no longer have to live life around your baby's sleep schedule. You can carry them around the house, to and from the pram, or out on the town without the fear of waking them. And even if you don’t feel like heading out, you can just seize the opportunity to nap on the sofa next to them.

Use a nursing pillow

When we discuss breastfeeding, it is usually painted as something so natural and maternal that it just happens automatically and with ease. When realistically, that's not always the case. For many, nursing can be painful, difficult and the nipples can become sore and tender. This can be due to a variety of reasons, but sometimes getting into a better position can help it happen.

The Najell Pregnancy Pillow is a smarter pregnancy pillow, with two nursing pillows inside. It helps the baby get into the right position and supports them when it's feeding time. But it also provides you as a parent the right support for your arms and back, so you can relax and enjoy the moment together.

Talk, talk, talk and ask for help

Talk, talk, talk! Don't forget that so many people are in the same situation. The glamorous baby life only exists on social media. But if you peek behind the curtain, you’ll find moms, dads, and parents with the same emotions, concerns, and experiences as you. If you are struggling during those early days, know that you are not alone and that help is available. The best thing you can do for yourself (and for your baby) is to reach out and ask for help.

Google can be a rabbit hole, trust your instincts

We know it's easy to doubt your abilities when it comes to parenting. It's only natural! But remember one thing. You can do this. What works for you vs the family next door can be night and day. It can be helpful to read about others who have been through similar situations, but it can also create a lot of unnecessary anxiety. What works for them may be the last thing you need. The good thing is that as a parent, you get to be in complete control of your own parenting. You're the world's leading expert on what makes your family tick!